| 1- everyone is entitled to their own opinion. similary, everyone is entitled to try and push that opinion onto capable listeners however often they want- it is up to that listener to accurately interpret that opinion and make their own decisions. everyone is entitled to, on hearing an opinion that interests them, adopt it as their own.
2- keep track of the favours you do for others, and the favours others do for you- you owe much to those that help you who you do not as often repay, and you owe nothing to those you constantly help who take it for granted. treat the former with the utmost consideration and respect, but if someone owes you but at the same time disrespects you, you have every right to be pissed off and to let them know that you are. this is a procedure that i have come to realize is perfectly normal and healthy called 'holding a grudge' and it prevents you from being a 'doormat'.
3- stay fit and look respectable, one or the other if you're poor or fat. spending money on fashion, having a tidy haircut and being clean-shaven may seem vain for some, but it's a sign of responsibility and self respect, among other things. your body is your temple. it's no surprise why fat, unclean, unshaven people seen in public get made fun of so often- why should people respect them when they can't even respect themselves? besides, when you know you look good, you'll feel good. secondly, keep your cool- control whatever situation you're in, and don't let it control you. if you flip, you lose a lot more than your cool- you lose your composure, your credibility, your respect- everything. if you lose your cool, it's all over.
4- the block feature on an IM client should never be used (except in obvious cases like if someone's spamming you and won't stop). if you don't want to talk to someone for whatever reason, grow a pair of balls and tell them yourself. don't block someone who has slighted you, cutting off a chance for them to make their case or apology. long story short, anyone who uses the block feature is a pussy. if you decide to throw a hissy fit, don't put 'don't talk to me' or 'leave me alone' in your name. if you didn't want to be talked to, you'd sign off instead of acting like an attention-seeking faggot.
5- it takes a big man to argue, but it takes an even bigger man to apologise.
6- always seek advice and perspective, but never let other people make your life's decisions for you- in the end, the person who will be most affected by the decisions made for you will be you. if someone seems not to realize this, you have every right to remind them.
7- being a fake of any kind is a bad thing to be.
8- it may sound selfish, but think of yourself more than you think of your peers or your obligations. you are the center of your own life, and you should give yourself the respective consideration- if life becomes too hectic as you juggle one thing or another, never be ashamed to withdraw and relax and recharge. if you become too obsessive on one other thing, such as your girlfriend- you'll begin to harm everything else- your friends, your career. if something else becomes the center of your life and you lose it, you lose everything.
9- winning isn't everything, but never, ever, ever try for anything less.
0- do unto others as you would have them do unto you. |
